ed to know, she acted offended and said, ‘Well, excuse me for asking!' I already feel insecure enough about my job, and I don't need her questions and accusations. Nobody likes to be It's hard enough dealing with the boss you have. You thought one boss would be enough. But, luckily, you have a co-worker who thinks she was appointed to supervise your every move. She's making your workplace a living hell. The following letter describes a similar situation.

"I have a co-worker, Karen, who is so annoying. She's always giving advice that is intrusive and demeaning. She thinks she knows everything, she's overworked and misunderstood, and nothing is ever her fault. The biggest problem is that she's always telling me how I should do my job, even though she has no supervisory authority over me. A few days ago, when I got off the phone, Karen asked me who I was talking to, and when I asked her why she wanted to know, she acted offended and said, ‘Well, excuse me for asking!' I already feel insecure enough about my job, and I don't need her questions and accusations. Nobody likes to be

e's making your workplace a living hell. The following letter describes a similar situation.

"I have a co-worker, Karen, who is so annoying. She's always giving advice that is intrusive and demeaning. She thinks she knows everything, she's overworked and misunderstood, and nothing is ever her fault. The biggest problem is that she's always telling me how I should do my job, even though she has no supervisory authority over me. A few days ago, when I got off the phone, Karen asked me who I was talking to, and when I asked her why she wanted to know, she acted offended and said, ‘Well, excuse me for asking!' I already feel insecure enough about my job, and I don't need her questions and accusations. Nobody likes to be

ntrusive and demeaning. She thinks she knows everything, she's overworked and misunderstood, and nothing is ever her fault. The biggest problem is that she's always telling me how I should do my job, even though she has no supervisory authority over me. A few days ago, when I got off the phone, Karen asked me who I was talking to, and when I asked her why she wanted to know, she acted offended and said, ‘Well, excuse me for asking!' I already feel insecure enough about my job, and I don't need her questions and accusations. Nobody likes to be hould do my job, even though she has no supervisory authority over me. A few days ago, when I got off the phone, Karen asked me who I was talking to, and when I asked her why she wanted to know, she acted offended and said, ‘Well, excuse me for asking!' I already feel insecure enough about my job, and I don't need her questions and accusations. Nobody likes to be ed to know, she acted offended and said, ‘Well, excuse me for asking!' I already feel insecure enough about my job, and I don't need her questions and accusations. Nobody likes to be around this woman. How can I deal with her without offending her?"

When we don't have enough of what we really want-Real Love-we feel empty, powerless, and alone, and we absolutely have to fill that emptiness with something that will relieve our pain. Your co-worker—Karen—tells you what she knows about everything because all her life she has noticed that other people pay attention to her in a positive way only when she's smart and helpful and in control. She tries to control you because that's when she feels powerful and important. Most of this is not conscious on her part, and you can be certain that she acts this way with almost everyone in her life, not just you. In the absence of sufficient real Love, this is how