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Casual Articles - Create a Magic Connection with Clients, Leads, and Business Associates -- Part II
The Hotel Industry has surely seen a roller coaster ride with Hurricane Katrina. Many Hotels along the Gulf Coast were totally destroyed, many were damaged and others in the aftermath remain totally full. So full in fact that finding a hotel with vacancy within 300 miles is nearly impossible. This is a windfall for the Patel Family; the Indians who are quite industrious and often associated with being sole proprietor hotel owners, it is a family tradition. Most Franchised Hotel Chains and Corporate Hotel Chains are also watching the occupancy rates at 100% meaning we will see very interesting third and fourth quarter results. One hotel chain has lst many hotels and we will not even talk about the tourism industry devastation in Gulfport, Biloxi and the Greater New Orleans area? Some say it may never recover, others are certain it will but it is going to take two or more years. Meanwhile Hurricane Season 2005 is hardly over, in fact we are now in one of the historically typical worst months for Hurricanes and Damage.Many city governments in smaller towns along tw
WORDS
Words may only account for 7% of our communication, but it is an important 7% and more complex than other ways of establishing rapport.
Remember what I said in Part I: I could have a weekend seminar on rapport.
When communicating, predicates (verbs), key words, common experiences and associations are vital in establishing rapport. Common experiences and associations are obvious. These areas are often the bases of friendships and business associations. It goes without saying that establishing a common bond with a client, lead, or business associate is good business. Be honest when doing this.
Key words sometimes slip by under the radar. Begin to listen for key words or phrases that someone repeats. This is a simple way of establishing rapport. Repeat back key words. Slip them naturally into the conversation. Again use caution.
Predicates are a little more complicated. This is going to be the abridged version. Most people have preferred verbs that they repeat. This is more important than key words because the verbs signal a way of thinking. There are people whose primary mode of thinking are visual, auditory, kinesthetic (feelings and touch), and
Today, businesses are increasingly rely on video surveillance systems. But how do you choose the best CCTV system, camera, or DVR? Read on to learn the steps to take in choosing the right video surveillance system for your needs.CCTV ObjectivesThe first step in designing a CCTV system is to determine the following:* How many cameras are required? * What are the key fields of view? * What are your recording requirements? * What are the lighting conditions at each camera location? * Where do you need live video monitoring? * How long do you need to keep the video files?Security CameraThe types of security camera you choose depend upon whether they'll be used indoors or outdoors, during the day and/or night, and where they will be mounted.Indoor Dome Camera: In nine out of ten instances, and indoor dome camera is used for general indoor applications. It's typically mounted on the ceiling, and can be configured for standard color, day/night, or infrared.Box Camera: Box cameras are usually sold indepe
Part II examines how NLP uses tonality and words to establish rapport.
TONALITY
While physiology accounts for 55% of communication among humans, tonality accounts for 38%. Most people have had the experience of someone saying, “I’m fine. Nothing’s wrong.” While the words on the page seem to indicate that this person doesn’t have a problem, the tone used speaks louder than the words. Without tone the words suggest that the speaker doesn’t have a problem. Consider irony and sarcasm; both are communicated through tonality. If a person says, “I’m fine. Nothings wrong,” in a pleasant voice, she creates a different meaning than if she says the same words though clinched teeth and a low angry tone, or with a flippant tone. Someone yelling “I’m not mad,” isn’t convincing. If this happens in a sitcom, we laugh. In real life, we dismiss the words and read the meaning from the tone of voice. Often tonality is more subtle than these examples, but still a powerful communicator. Boredom, excitement, anger, melancholy, disbelief, questions, enthusiasm, honesty are more often communicated through tone, rather than words.
When talking on the phone, it is crucial to be aware of tonality. In a phone conversation, both people are communicating via their tonality, often unconsciously. The business person that wants to create magic and rapport doesn’t leave tonality to chance.
Tonality includes:
tone (pitch: high, low);
tempo (speed: slow, fast);
timbre (quality: clear, raspy);
volume (loudness).
How does tonality work in practice? If you are talking to someone who has a high pitched voice, raise your pitch a little. Like matching and mirroring, you don’t want to imitate. Be subtle. If you are a man, raise your voice a little. Match the last few words someone says. Just that little matching will help to create rapport.
Speed is very important. People who talk fast are often impatient with people who speak slower. People who talk at a slow speed are often turned off by people who speech rapidly. For someone who naturally speaks fast, slower speaking people seems to take forever to say something. For someone who naturally speaks slow, the fast talker seems hyper, insincere. “City slicker, fast talking” suggest that the fast talker is trying to out wit or is trying to hide something.
I tend to be laid back, slower of speech. After all, I’m from California. We are easy going. I was in New York giving a presentation; the person who presented before me took more than her alotted time. My presentation was cut short by about 15 minutes. I stood up began speaking at what I considered high speed and told everyone that I was talking fast because I wanted to get through my entire presentation. Several audience members laughed and said, “We are New Yorkers. No matter how fast you talk, it won’t be too fast.” I couldn’t patch their speed. In contrast to New Yorkers, I visited a friend in Georgia. The southern drawl in Georgia was slow, hypnotic, and relaxed. It made me feel at home, but I felt like a fast talking city slicker.
Match the speed of the person with whom you are speaking. If someone’s speed is slower than your speed, slow down. Don’t be obvious. If someone’s speaks faster, speed up. This simple act can go a long way toward creating rapport.
Again with timbre and volume, match. Volume of voice can be very effective with someone who is angry. I learned this the hard way. A few years ago, I unwittingly angered another professor. As he became more angry, his voice grew louder. I was afraid he might become violent; so, I conscious kept my voice low and soft, believing that would calm him. I watched rather mystified as he grew more angry as I controlled my voice, trying to sound calm and in control. If someone is angry, try matching the volume of his voice without matching the anger. It might feel strange, but matching the volume creates rapport (I was breaking rapport). His anger is likely to dissipate as you establish rapport. Once the rapport is established, you can begin to lower your volume; if you have established rapport, he will follow you.
One other aspect to keep in mind for phone rapport. If you are the person calling. You set the pace for the phone call. If you have high energy, excitement, enthusiasm, you will put the person on the other end of the line into a better mood. You can maintain the energy, excitement, and enthusiasm while matching tone, temp, timbre, and volume. This was model for me about a year ago. I wasn’t feeling great and was rather down in the dumps. I phone to take care of some business. The women who answered the phone was energetic and excited. I immediately felt a shift in my mood. When I hung up, I was in a better mood. A few weeks later when I met this woman, I was predisposed to like her. She had immediately established rapport with me.
WORDS
Words may only account for 7% of our communication, but it is an important 7% and more complex than other ways of establishing rapport.
Remember what I said in Part I: I could have a weekend seminar on rapport.
When communicating, predicates (verbs), key words, common experiences and associations are vital in establishing rapport. Common experiences and associations are obvious. These areas are often the bases of friendships and business associations. It goes without saying that establishing a common bond with a client, lead, or business associate is good business. Be honest when doing this.
Key words sometimes slip by under the radar. Begin to listen for key words or phrases that someone repeats. This is a simple way of establishing rapport. Repeat back key words. Slip them naturally into the conversation. Again use caution.
Predicates are a little more complicated. This is going to be the abridged version. Most people have preferred verbs that they repeat. This is more important than key words because the verbs signal a way of thinking. There are people whose primary mode of thinking are visual, auditory, kinesthetic (feelings and touch), and
Why don’t more people injured at work claim compensation?It is estimated by the Health and Safety Executive that UK workers sustain 850,000 injuries at work every year, but 9/10 of these people do not get any compensation.There are a number of possible reasons why this is so.1. Eligibility for compensationTo make a claim following an accident at work it needs to be proved that the employer failed in their duty of care to provide a safe environment for the employee (this is known as negligence) and that an injury occurred as a result.A duty of care is the legal responsibility that an employer has to take practical steps to protect his employees from harm. There are conditions to this; duty of care is limited to what is deemed reasonable.There are all sorts of ways that an employer could fail in their duty of care. Just a few examples of this are: a lack of safety equipment, dangerous machinery or premises, and a lack of proper training or supervision.If an employee is injured in an accident caused by their employer’s n
When talking on the phone, it is crucial to be aware of tonality. In a phone conversation, both people are communicating via their tonality, often unconsciously. The business person that wants to create magic and rapport doesn’t leave tonality to chance.
Tonality includes:
tone (pitch: high, low);
tempo (speed: slow, fast);
timbre (quality: clear, raspy);
volume (loudness).
How does tonality work in practice? If you are talking to someone who has a high pitched voice, raise your pitch a little. Like matching and mirroring, you don’t want to imitate. Be subtle. If you are a man, raise your voice a little. Match the last few words someone says. Just that little matching will help to create rapport.
Speed is very important. People who talk fast are often impatient with people who speak slower. People who talk at a slow speed are often turned off by people who speech rapidly. For someone who naturally speaks fast, slower speaking people seems to take forever to say something. For someone who naturally speaks slow, the fast talker seems hyper, insincere. “City slicker, fast talking” suggest that the fast talker is trying to out wit or is trying to hide something.
I tend to be laid back, slower of speech. After all, I’m from California. We are easy going. I was in New York giving a presentation; the person who presented before me took more than her alotted time. My presentation was cut short by about 15 minutes. I stood up began speaking at what I considered high speed and told everyone that I was talking fast because I wanted to get through my entire presentation. Several audience members laughed and said, “We are New Yorkers. No matter how fast you talk, it won’t be too fast.” I couldn’t patch their speed. In contrast to New Yorkers, I visited a friend in Georgia. The southern drawl in Georgia was slow, hypnotic, and relaxed. It made me feel at home, but I felt like a fast talking city slicker.
Match the speed of the person with whom you are speaking. If someone’s speed is slower than your speed, slow down. Don’t be obvious. If someone’s speaks faster, speed up. This simple act can go a long way toward creating rapport.
Again with timbre and volume, match. Volume of voice can be very effective with someone who is angry. I learned this the hard way. A few years ago, I unwittingly angered another professor. As he became more angry, his voice grew louder. I was afraid he might become violent; so, I conscious kept my voice low and soft, believing that would calm him. I watched rather mystified as he grew more angry as I controlled my voice, trying to sound calm and in control. If someone is angry, try matching the volume of his voice without matching the anger. It might feel strange, but matching the volume creates rapport (I was breaking rapport). His anger is likely to dissipate as you establish rapport. Once the rapport is established, you can begin to lower your volume; if you have established rapport, he will follow you.
One other aspect to keep in mind for phone rapport. If you are the person calling. You set the pace for the phone call. If you have high energy, excitement, enthusiasm, you will put the person on the other end of the line into a better mood. You can maintain the energy, excitement, and enthusiasm while matching tone, temp, timbre, and volume. This was model for me about a year ago. I wasn’t feeling great and was rather down in the dumps. I phone to take care of some business. The women who answered the phone was energetic and excited. I immediately felt a shift in my mood. When I hung up, I was in a better mood. A few weeks later when I met this woman, I was predisposed to like her. She had immediately established rapport with me.
WORDS
Words may only account for 7% of our communication, but it is an important 7% and more complex than other ways of establishing rapport.
Remember what I said in Part I: I could have a weekend seminar on rapport.
When communicating, predicates (verbs), key words, common experiences and associations are vital in establishing rapport. Common experiences and associations are obvious. These areas are often the bases of friendships and business associations. It goes without saying that establishing a common bond with a client, lead, or business associate is good business. Be honest when doing this.
Key words sometimes slip by under the radar. Begin to listen for key words or phrases that someone repeats. This is a simple way of establishing rapport. Repeat back key words. Slip them naturally into the conversation. Again use caution.
Predicates are a little more complicated. This is going to be the abridged version. Most people have preferred verbs that they repeat. This is more important than key words because the verbs signal a way of thinking. There are people whose primary mode of thinking are visual, auditory, kinesthetic (feelings and touch), and
Wallace Flint was the first person to suggest an automated checkout system in 1932. But the history of modern barcode begun only in 1948, when Bernard Silver, a graduate student of Drexel Institute of Technology in Philadelphia, asked his friend Norman Woodland to develop a system to automatically read product information during checkout.The first coding system was developed by Woodland, a twenty-seven-year-old graduate of the same institute. On October 7, 1952, Woodland and his friend Silver were awarded a patent for this invention named "Classifying Apparatus and Method." Woodland's first idea was to use patterns of ink that would glow under ultraviolet light. The barcode Woodland and Silver developed was a "bull's eye" symbol, made up of a series of concentric circles. Later, the barcode was made up of a pattern of four white lines on a dark background. Information was coded and classified in these lines.The barcode was first commercialized in 1967, when RCA installed the first scanning systems at a Kroger store in Cincinnati. In 1969, NAFC asked Logic
I tend to be laid back, slower of speech. After all, I’m from California. We are easy going. I was in New York giving a presentation; the person who presented before me took more than her alotted time. My presentation was cut short by about 15 minutes. I stood up began speaking at what I considered high speed and told everyone that I was talking fast because I wanted to get through my entire presentation. Several audience members laughed and said, “We are New Yorkers. No matter how fast you talk, it won’t be too fast.” I couldn’t patch their speed. In contrast to New Yorkers, I visited a friend in Georgia. The southern drawl in Georgia was slow, hypnotic, and relaxed. It made me feel at home, but I felt like a fast talking city slicker.
Match the speed of the person with whom you are speaking. If someone’s speed is slower than your speed, slow down. Don’t be obvious. If someone’s speaks faster, speed up. This simple act can go a long way toward creating rapport.
Again with timbre and volume, match. Volume of voice can be very effective with someone who is angry. I learned this the hard way. A few years ago, I unwittingly angered another professor. As he became more angry, his voice grew louder. I was afraid he might become violent; so, I conscious kept my voice low and soft, believing that would calm him. I watched rather mystified as he grew more angry as I controlled my voice, trying to sound calm and in control. If someone is angry, try matching the volume of his voice without matching the anger. It might feel strange, but matching the volume creates rapport (I was breaking rapport). His anger is likely to dissipate as you establish rapport. Once the rapport is established, you can begin to lower your volume; if you have established rapport, he will follow you.
One other aspect to keep in mind for phone rapport. If you are the person calling. You set the pace for the phone call. If you have high energy, excitement, enthusiasm, you will put the person on the other end of the line into a better mood. You can maintain the energy, excitement, and enthusiasm while matching tone, temp, timbre, and volume. This was model for me about a year ago. I wasn’t feeling great and was rather down in the dumps. I phone to take care of some business. The women who answered the phone was energetic and excited. I immediately felt a shift in my mood. When I hung up, I was in a better mood. A few weeks later when I met this woman, I was predisposed to like her. She had immediately established rapport with me.
WORDS
Words may only account for 7% of our communication, but it is an important 7% and more complex than other ways of establishing rapport.
Remember what I said in Part I: I could have a weekend seminar on rapport.
When communicating, predicates (verbs), key words, common experiences and associations are vital in establishing rapport. Common experiences and associations are obvious. These areas are often the bases of friendships and business associations. It goes without saying that establishing a common bond with a client, lead, or business associate is good business. Be honest when doing this.
Key words sometimes slip by under the radar. Begin to listen for key words or phrases that someone repeats. This is a simple way of establishing rapport. Repeat back key words. Slip them naturally into the conversation. Again use caution.
Predicates are a little more complicated. This is going to be the abridged version. Most people have preferred verbs that they repeat. This is more important than key words because the verbs signal a way of thinking. There are people whose primary mode of thinking are visual, auditory, kinesthetic (feelings and touch), and
Senior executives are increasingly concerned that their managers and supervisors have the skills needed to build cooperation and collaboration across departmental and authority boundaries. This is critically important in becoming Lean throughout the Enterprise.The competitive pressures in a global economy are so intense, and opportunities so fleeting, that no successful organization can afford to slow down because internal stakeholders fail to agree and work together in a common direction.Seizing opportunities and turning them into business success requires more than quick action; it requires highly effective collaboration. When minutes count, it is critical that managers minimize the time it takes to create buy-in and participation across departments and job functions. Quick and effective collaboration will greatly increase speedy response to market opportunities and open the door for innovation.When managers and supervisors are not successful at influencing colleagues, the burden of making sure everyone cooperates inevitably falls to senior manag
One other aspect to keep in mind for phone rapport. If you are the person calling. You set the pace for the phone call. If you have high energy, excitement, enthusiasm, you will put the person on the other end of the line into a better mood. You can maintain the energy, excitement, and enthusiasm while matching tone, temp, timbre, and volume. This was model for me about a year ago. I wasn’t feeling great and was rather down in the dumps. I phone to take care of some business. The women who answered the phone was energetic and excited. I immediately felt a shift in my mood. When I hung up, I was in a better mood. A few weeks later when I met this woman, I was predisposed to like her. She had immediately established rapport with me.
WORDS
Words may only account for 7% of our communication, but it is an important 7% and more complex than other ways of establishing rapport.
Remember what I said in Part I: I could have a weekend seminar on rapport.
When communicating, predicates (verbs), key words, common experiences and associations are vital in establishing rapport. Common experiences and associations are obvious. These areas are often the bases of friendships and business associations. It goes without saying that establishing a common bond with a client, lead, or business associate is good business. Be honest when doing this.
Key words sometimes slip by under the radar. Begin to listen for key words or phrases that someone repeats. This is a simple way of establishing rapport. Repeat back key words. Slip them naturally into the conversation. Again use caution.
Predicates are a little more complicated. This is going to be the abridged version. Most people have preferred verbs that they repeat. This is more important than key words because the verbs signal a way of thinking. There are people whose primary mode of thinking are visual, auditory, kinesthetic (feelings and touch), and
Lets talk about images in advertising for a moment. Most advertisements for clothing (i.e. bathing suits etc), show shapely thin women and men. This has led our country to think that fat is demeaning and not socially accepted. This type of advertising has caused everyone to want to look like the people in the ads. Diets of all sorts have been developed to try to meet these expectations. But when their goals are not reached it causes depression, low self-esteem that in turn causes a poor image is developed. In my opinion these advertisements have a negative outreach. Who is to say only thin people look great? Advertisements do! These ads also have created anorexic teenagers, which has led to serious health problems and even death.Advertisements often do not explicitly urge the consumer to buy a given product; rather they promise that the products will enhance a person’s life, many times with simple images. Opening a whole range of desiderata including youthfulness, attractiveness, social grace, security, success, conviviality, sex, romance and the admiration
WORDS
Words may only account for 7% of our communication, but it is an important 7% and more complex than other ways of establishing rapport.
Remember what I said in Part I: I could have a weekend seminar on rapport.
When communicating, predicates (verbs), key words, common experiences and associations are vital in establishing rapport. Common experiences and associations are obvious. These areas are often the bases of friendships and business associations. It goes without saying that establishing a common bond with a client, lead, or business associate is good business. Be honest when doing this.
Key words sometimes slip by under the radar. Begin to listen for key words or phrases that someone repeats. This is a simple way of establishing rapport. Repeat back key words. Slip them naturally into the conversation. Again use caution.
Predicates are a little more complicated. This is going to be the abridged version. Most people have preferred verbs that they repeat. This is more important than key words because the verbs signal a way of thinking. There are people whose primary mode of thinking are visual, auditory, kinesthetic (feelings and touch), and audio digital (they talk to themselves). What this means is that people process information through their preferred mode of thinking.
VISUAL: Someone who is visual will use words like see, picture, clear, foggy, vision, appear, look, reveal, view.
AUDITORY: Auditory people use hear, clear as a bell, that rings true; harmonize, resonate, tune in, tune out.
KINESTHETIC: Kinesthetic people use feel, touch, get a handle on, grasp, tap into, hard, concrete, catch on. These people think in terms of feeling and touch.
AUDIO DIGITAL: Audio digital people use words like understand, perceive, think, sense, experience, insensitive. These people do a lot of inner self-talk. They are very linguistically cognitive
What this discovery will help you do is communicate more clearly towards someone preferred way of thinking. As you begin to see how this works, it is easy to come to an understanding of how people connect and how they misunderstand each other. If someone is audio, you might say, “I hear what you mean.” If this product rings true for you, then . . .” With someone who is visual, you might say, “I can picture that.” If you can picture yourself with this product, then . . .” What you are looking for is their way of processing information, and you are using their preferred mode of communicating to communicate clearly with a client, lead, or associate.
Shortly after I learned this concept, I was teaching and a student asked me to explain something. He ended his sentence with, “I don’t have a clear picture of the concept.” When I heard the visual language, I repeated what I said, using see, picture, show. It was the same explanation using different verbs. The students smiled and said, “I see. It’s much clearer now.” At that point, I became a believer.
I’d suggest that practicing one area at a time. Start with matching and mirroring someone’s posture, or expressions, or blinking. Take it slow. It’s like learning anything else. Practice creates ease. Then move on to voice and words.
Always use these strategies with integrity. Can you use magic to make connections with others. Yes. Do it consciously and with volition. Make win win situations. If you win and if your client or lead wins, you have created magic.
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