me if I get a promotion." My best friend will be upset if I am thinner than her." "My friends will be jealous if I am in a relationship."

We often unconsciously hold ourselves back from reaching our true potential and being happy, because we are afraid of being rejected and being alone. One key to happy relationships is to support each other to be all that we are. That is, we often feel resentful and angry when we hold ourselves back. We feel hurt and our relationships suffer when we have those negative feelings.

When we allow ourselves to actualize what we want in our lives, we attract people who accept and supp

Have you ever been rejected because of your success in school, sports, relationships, or your career, etc.? These past negative experiences can be blocking you from reaching your desired personal and professional goals.

As a Marriage, Family Therapist, I had the opportunity to counsel many men, women and children. I learned about this unconscious fear of success from my clients. To help them reach their full potential and actualize their goals, I guided them though the HART process (Holistic And Rapid Transformation).

One of my clients, Mary, discovered that she often got sick in elementary school, because she was very bright and the kids rejected her. By missing many classes, Mary's grades dropped and she was more accepted by her peers. Mary was shocked when she realized that she was still following the same pattern in her adult life. She then understood why she was not allowing herself to be healthy, or successful in her career.

This fear of success can affect us even in our adult life. One all too common example is demonstrated with Sandy's story. She was a forty-two-year-old single parent who felt she was a failure in her commercial real estate job. Sandy was not making enough money to support her three children.

I said, "Sandy, close your eyes and visualize yourself doing well and earning the amount of money you want. How are you feeling?" Sandy replied, "Scared!" When I asked her what she was afraid of, Sandy replied, "I am afraid if I make a lot of money, no man will want me."

I then asked Sandy if she was willing to believe that she could have the career, the money and the relationship she wanted. She said, "Yes." Since visualization is very powerful, I led her in a process to see herself financially abundant and in a loving relationship

A month later, Sandy called me and said, "Helene, I think you had better sit down. I earned $40,000 this month!"

That is how quickly this process can work. It is not magic, although it proves how powerful we are to create what we want. Sandy was unconsciously pushing away financial success, because she was afraid that men would not like her. When she released that fear, she allowed prosperity into her life.

This fear of success can block your success in your personal and professional life. I often hear people say, "My sibling will reject me if I do too well." "My husband will feel threatened if I earn too much money." "People will not play will me if I am too good." "Other employees will resent me if I get a promotion." My best friend will be upset if I am thinner than her." "My friends will be jealous if I am in a relationship."

We often unconsciously hold ourselves back from reaching our true potential and being happy, because we are afraid of being rejected and being alone. One key to happy relationships is to support each other to be all that we are. That is, we often feel resentful and angry when we hold ourselves back. We feel hurt and our relationships suffer when we have those negative feelings.

When we allow ourselves to actualize what we want in our lives, we attract people who accept and suppo

s very bright and the kids rejected her. By missing many classes, Mary's grades dropped and she was more accepted by her peers. Mary was shocked when she realized that she was still following the same pattern in her adult life. She then understood why she was not allowing herself to be healthy, or successful in her career.

This fear of success can affect us even in our adult life. One all too common example is demonstrated with Sandy's story. She was a forty-two-year-old single parent who felt she was a failure in her commercial real estate job. Sandy was not making enough money to support her three children.

I said, "Sandy, close your eyes and visualize yourself doing well and earning the amount of money you want. How are you feeling?" Sandy replied, "Scared!" When I asked her what she was afraid of, Sandy replied, "I am afraid if I make a lot of money, no man will want me."

I then asked Sandy if she was willing to believe that she could have the career, the money and the relationship she wanted. She said, "Yes." Since visualization is very powerful, I led her in a process to see herself financially abundant and in a loving relationship

A month later, Sandy called me and said, "Helene, I think you had better sit down. I earned $40,000 this month!"

That is how quickly this process can work. It is not magic, although it proves how powerful we are to create what we want. Sandy was unconsciously pushing away financial success, because she was afraid that men would not like her. When she released that fear, she allowed prosperity into her life.

This fear of success can block your success in your personal and professional life. I often hear people say, "My sibling will reject me if I do too well." "My husband will feel threatened if I earn too much money." "People will not play will me if I am too good." "Other employees will resent me if I get a promotion." My best friend will be upset if I am thinner than her." "My friends will be jealous if I am in a relationship."

We often unconsciously hold ourselves back from reaching our true potential and being happy, because we are afraid of being rejected and being alone. One key to happy relationships is to support each other to be all that we are. That is, we often feel resentful and angry when we hold ourselves back. We feel hurt and our relationships suffer when we have those negative feelings.

When we allow ourselves to actualize what we want in our lives, we attract people who accept and supp

aid, "Sandy, close your eyes and visualize yourself doing well and earning the amount of money you want. How are you feeling?" Sandy replied, "Scared!" When I asked her what she was afraid of, Sandy replied, "I am afraid if I make a lot of money, no man will want me."

I then asked Sandy if she was willing to believe that she could have the career, the money and the relationship she wanted. She said, "Yes." Since visualization is very powerful, I led her in a process to see herself financially abundant and in a loving relationship

A month later, Sandy called me and said, "Helene, I think you had better sit down. I earned $40,000 this month!"

That is how quickly this process can work. It is not magic, although it proves how powerful we are to create what we want. Sandy was unconsciously pushing away financial success, because she was afraid that men would not like her. When she released that fear, she allowed prosperity into her life.

This fear of success can block your success in your personal and professional life. I often hear people say, "My sibling will reject me if I do too well." "My husband will feel threatened if I earn too much money." "People will not play will me if I am too good." "Other employees will resent me if I get a promotion." My best friend will be upset if I am thinner than her." "My friends will be jealous if I am in a relationship."

We often unconsciously hold ourselves back from reaching our true potential and being happy, because we are afraid of being rejected and being alone. One key to happy relationships is to support each other to be all that we are. That is, we often feel resentful and angry when we hold ourselves back. We feel hurt and our relationships suffer when we have those negative feelings.

When we allow ourselves to actualize what we want in our lives, we attract people who accept and supp

earned $40,000 this month!"

That is how quickly this process can work. It is not magic, although it proves how powerful we are to create what we want. Sandy was unconsciously pushing away financial success, because she was afraid that men would not like her. When she released that fear, she allowed prosperity into her life.

This fear of success can block your success in your personal and professional life. I often hear people say, "My sibling will reject me if I do too well." "My husband will feel threatened if I earn too much money." "People will not play will me if I am too good." "Other employees will resent me if I get a promotion." My best friend will be upset if I am thinner than her." "My friends will be jealous if I am in a relationship."

We often unconsciously hold ourselves back from reaching our true potential and being happy, because we are afraid of being rejected and being alone. One key to happy relationships is to support each other to be all that we are. That is, we often feel resentful and angry when we hold ourselves back. We feel hurt and our relationships suffer when we have those negative feelings.

When we allow ourselves to actualize what we want in our lives, we attract people who accept and supp

me if I get a promotion." My best friend will be upset if I am thinner than her." "My friends will be jealous if I am in a relationship."

We often unconsciously hold ourselves back from reaching our true potential and being happy, because we are afraid of being rejected and being alone. One key to happy relationships is to support each other to be all that we are. That is, we often feel resentful and angry when we hold ourselves back. We feel hurt and our relationships suffer when we have those negative feelings.

When we allow ourselves to actualize what we want in our lives, we attract people who accept and support our happiness. You actually help people to be successful when you are, because then they have a postiive model. Therefore, being successful is a gift to them and you. You deserve to be happy, healthy, and successful. Go for it!