ng around your other obligations, but, then, you may not. Can you handle this sort of commitment? Do you have time for it? And, furthermore, do you think your girlfriend has time for it, too? Or look at it this way: Some weddings are more elaborate than others. Your girlfriend's probably been dreaming about hers her entire life. Will you guys have the spare time you need to plan a weddinPreparing for major life changes

It's true: If you get engaged, your life will never be the same. Knowing the changes you'll be making, and knowing you're ready and willing to handle them, is crucial to knowing the time is right to propose. First comes the stress of planning a wedding -- a major, though temporary, change all its own.

"Wait a minute," you say. "Isn't planning a wedding the girl's job?"

Um, no. We'll pretend you didn't say that.

Make no mistake, though: Planning a wedding will take a lot out of you, no matter your level of involvement. For instance, you're going to need to book a band or a DJ. Easy enough, right? How could it be any more difficult than buying a boom box? Well, don't forget about finding a catering hall, or possibly a caterer, as well as a florist, a photographer, and so on. Oh, and you'll have to make a guest list. And it won't be easy. And you'll get into fights over it. And a few months later, you'll get into more. All for a four or five hour event!

Which isn't to say that you won't have fun. You will. And, ultimately, this stress will be worth it. But rest assured, there will be stress. Soon you'll find your to-do list has the regenerative powers of a worm or a starfish. Just when you think you're done… ha! You wish! So it helps to know this ahead of time. Why? Because what if you literally can't handle this stuff right now? Like, what if you just can't figure it into your schedule? Perhaps you're a student. Or maybe you're working two jobs. You may be able to plan a wedding around your other obligations, but, then, you may not. Can you handle this sort of commitment? Do you have time for it? And, furthermore, do you think your girlfriend has time for it, too? Or look at it this way: Some weddings are more elaborate than others. Your girlfriend's probably been dreaming about hers her entire life. Will you guys have the spare time you need to plan a wedding

a wedding the girl's job?"

Um, no. We'll pretend you didn't say that.

Make no mistake, though: Planning a wedding will take a lot out of you, no matter your level of involvement. For instance, you're going to need to book a band or a DJ. Easy enough, right? How could it be any more difficult than buying a boom box? Well, don't forget about finding a catering hall, or possibly a caterer, as well as a florist, a photographer, and so on. Oh, and you'll have to make a guest list. And it won't be easy. And you'll get into fights over it. And a few months later, you'll get into more. All for a four or five hour event!

Which isn't to say that you won't have fun. You will. And, ultimately, this stress will be worth it. But rest assured, there will be stress. Soon you'll find your to-do list has the regenerative powers of a worm or a starfish. Just when you think you're done… ha! You wish! So it helps to know this ahead of time. Why? Because what if you literally can't handle this stuff right now? Like, what if you just can't figure it into your schedule? Perhaps you're a student. Or maybe you're working two jobs. You may be able to plan a wedding around your other obligations, but, then, you may not. Can you handle this sort of commitment? Do you have time for it? And, furthermore, do you think your girlfriend has time for it, too? Or look at it this way: Some weddings are more elaborate than others. Your girlfriend's probably been dreaming about hers her entire life. Will you guys have the spare time you need to plan a weddin

a caterer, as well as a florist, a photographer, and so on. Oh, and you'll have to make a guest list. And it won't be easy. And you'll get into fights over it. And a few months later, you'll get into more. All for a four or five hour event!

Which isn't to say that you won't have fun. You will. And, ultimately, this stress will be worth it. But rest assured, there will be stress. Soon you'll find your to-do list has the regenerative powers of a worm or a starfish. Just when you think you're done… ha! You wish! So it helps to know this ahead of time. Why? Because what if you literally can't handle this stuff right now? Like, what if you just can't figure it into your schedule? Perhaps you're a student. Or maybe you're working two jobs. You may be able to plan a wedding around your other obligations, but, then, you may not. Can you handle this sort of commitment? Do you have time for it? And, furthermore, do you think your girlfriend has time for it, too? Or look at it this way: Some weddings are more elaborate than others. Your girlfriend's probably been dreaming about hers her entire life. Will you guys have the spare time you need to plan a weddin

on you'll find your to-do list has the regenerative powers of a worm or a starfish. Just when you think you're done… ha! You wish! So it helps to know this ahead of time. Why? Because what if you literally can't handle this stuff right now? Like, what if you just can't figure it into your schedule? Perhaps you're a student. Or maybe you're working two jobs. You may be able to plan a wedding around your other obligations, but, then, you may not. Can you handle this sort of commitment? Do you have time for it? And, furthermore, do you think your girlfriend has time for it, too? Or look at it this way: Some weddings are more elaborate than others. Your girlfriend's probably been dreaming about hers her entire life. Will you guys have the spare time you need to plan a weddinng around your other obligations, but, then, you may not. Can you handle this sort of commitment? Do you have time for it? And, furthermore, do you think your girlfriend has time for it, too? Or look at it this way: Some weddings are more elaborate than others. Your girlfriend's probably been dreaming about hers her entire life. Will you guys have the spare time you need to plan a wedding that lives up to her dreams as well as your own expectations?

This brings us to our second major change.

You and your girlfriend are probably pretty close. You may even live together. But marriage is a whole other ballgame when it comes to thinking for two -- because, legally, you're kinda, sorta one. Maybe the best way to look at it is to think of marriage like double vision. From now on, you'll be seeing two of everything. Two plates on the table. Two embroidered robes for Christmas. And, of course, two wonderful, loving families to visit when Christmastime comes. (About the only thing that won't be doubled is enough time to visit both.)

Planning a wedding is a major commitment. It goes without saying that marriage, itself, is a major commitment, too -- that's the whole point. So when you choose to propose, you're choosing to make some major life changes. And they're nice changes, really. But it's still good to know what you're in for.

Here's a litmus test: Can you see yourself calling your girlfriend your "fianc?" for the next six, twelve, or however many months it takes to plan your wedding? Or can you at least see yourself admitting you goofed up every time she complains that you called her your "girlfriend"… yet again? This is the sort of thing you'll want to know you can handle. It's a small change, you know, but you do want to call her your "wife."

Ready to say "I do"?

Maybe this all sounds daunting. In the end, though, only one person will know if you know your girlfriend well enough to get m