tory. More than likely, however, if they are deep in the fog, this conversation will be unproductive.

Gaining a better understanding of what your wayward partner is thinking is beneficial to the betrayed in that he/she can understand that the infidelity is NOT about them. Now is the time for the betrayed to begin to take care of themselves to further their own growth and healing

The term “the fog” can be described as being similar to being brainwashed. The thrill of the affair envelops the wayward partner in good feelings and the excitement can be overwhelming. They feel a new high, a feeling of being “in love.” They begin to rationalize with themselves in order to cover up their feelings of guilt. They may convince themselves that their marriage was already bad, that their partner really doesn’t love them, and that the affair partner must truly be their “soul-mate” because he/she is the only one that understands them.

Next begins the repeated internal dialog of the rationalizations, over and over again in their minds. It is as if they become addicted to the affair, needing the constant high it brings, many times with total disregard for the betrayed. Over time, they really begin to believe all the lies they’ve told themselves. Their beliefs are reflected in their actions; loving to the affair partner and angry and hostile towards the betrayed. Wash, rinse, and repeat and soon they are deeply entrenched in the fog.

For the betrayed, this is a very confusing and trying time. Not only has the person you thought you could always count on stabbed you in the back but they are now acting totally out of character. They have probably rewritten your relationship history and now are professing their love to someone else. Who wouldn’t be confused?

If you can have a rational, calm discussion with your wayward partner, sometimes you can point out the inaccuracies and inconsistencies in their story. More than likely, however, if they are deep in the fog, this conversation will be unproductive.

Gaining a better understanding of what your wayward partner is thinking is beneficial to the betrayed in that he/she can understand that the infidelity is NOT about them. Now is the time for the betrayed to begin to take care of themselves to further their own growth and healing.

bad, that their partner really doesn’t love them, and that the affair partner must truly be their “soul-mate” because he/she is the only one that understands them.

Next begins the repeated internal dialog of the rationalizations, over and over again in their minds. It is as if they become addicted to the affair, needing the constant high it brings, many times with total disregard for the betrayed. Over time, they really begin to believe all the lies they’ve told themselves. Their beliefs are reflected in their actions; loving to the affair partner and angry and hostile towards the betrayed. Wash, rinse, and repeat and soon they are deeply entrenched in the fog.

For the betrayed, this is a very confusing and trying time. Not only has the person you thought you could always count on stabbed you in the back but they are now acting totally out of character. They have probably rewritten your relationship history and now are professing their love to someone else. Who wouldn’t be confused?

If you can have a rational, calm discussion with your wayward partner, sometimes you can point out the inaccuracies and inconsistencies in their story. More than likely, however, if they are deep in the fog, this conversation will be unproductive.

Gaining a better understanding of what your wayward partner is thinking is beneficial to the betrayed in that he/she can understand that the infidelity is NOT about them. Now is the time for the betrayed to begin to take care of themselves to further their own growth and healing

for the betrayed. Over time, they really begin to believe all the lies they’ve told themselves. Their beliefs are reflected in their actions; loving to the affair partner and angry and hostile towards the betrayed. Wash, rinse, and repeat and soon they are deeply entrenched in the fog.

For the betrayed, this is a very confusing and trying time. Not only has the person you thought you could always count on stabbed you in the back but they are now acting totally out of character. They have probably rewritten your relationship history and now are professing their love to someone else. Who wouldn’t be confused?

If you can have a rational, calm discussion with your wayward partner, sometimes you can point out the inaccuracies and inconsistencies in their story. More than likely, however, if they are deep in the fog, this conversation will be unproductive.

Gaining a better understanding of what your wayward partner is thinking is beneficial to the betrayed in that he/she can understand that the infidelity is NOT about them. Now is the time for the betrayed to begin to take care of themselves to further their own growth and healing

ght you could always count on stabbed you in the back but they are now acting totally out of character. They have probably rewritten your relationship history and now are professing their love to someone else. Who wouldn’t be confused?

If you can have a rational, calm discussion with your wayward partner, sometimes you can point out the inaccuracies and inconsistencies in their story. More than likely, however, if they are deep in the fog, this conversation will be unproductive.

Gaining a better understanding of what your wayward partner is thinking is beneficial to the betrayed in that he/she can understand that the infidelity is NOT about them. Now is the time for the betrayed to begin to take care of themselves to further their own growth and healing

tory. More than likely, however, if they are deep in the fog, this conversation will be unproductive.

Gaining a better understanding of what your wayward partner is thinking is beneficial to the betrayed in that he/she can understand that the infidelity is NOT about them. Now is the time for the betrayed to begin to take care of themselves to further their own growth and healing.