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Casual Articles - Why Are Some Men Unkind To Their Families?
First you must enjoy writing – you are doing it for your own satisfaction. I’m sorry to have to inform you that you won’t make a J.K. Rowlings fortune even if you do find a publisher - and you may not. The competition is fierce!If you haven't read many children's books since you were a child yourself, spend some time in the local library or big bookshop looking at what is on offer, what is being published at the moment. And read read read in your chosen genre!Picture books are a very specialized skill. You need to know how they are put together, the number of pages (32), the number of words (under 500 preferably), the relationship between the words and the pictures. You can do a course or workshop, but unfortunately many don't give you these details. If you are working on shorter novels (easy chapter books with lots of pictures, for early readers) or longer novels, you need to know who your audience is. If fantasy, know the parameters of your invented worl
To be an understanding wife, when her husband is acting out, is difficult because she tends to take his actions toward her as abuse. It is, but she fails to recognize the reasons for why he acts as he does. She needs to understand the cause. To allow him to vent when he needs to.
She needs to understand what it like for a man out there in the world, The world of men working with men! Most men put great demands on each other. Most have little compassion for other men. Often, they gain great joy
You know your prospects need what you sell. You know they want what you sell. Heck, you know that they even sent away for information on your service and requested a quote.But the fact is you are missing one major piece of the puzzle.Want to know what it is?No matter what else you know, often, the missing piece is knowing when your hot little prospect will actually make a purchase.People search for information and solutions in many different ways and on many different time tables.Some will buy immediately; some may take a year or more depending on the complexity of the purchase.The key to solving this dilemma is consistent and repeated contact.If you build a marketing system that guarantees your prospects (particularly your “A” prospects) are contacted at least 8-10 times a year you can significantly increase the odds that your name will jump to the top of the list when they do actually decide to purchase.Another be
I am talking about the frustrated man who yells at this family, makes great demands on them, seems always angry and frustrated.
This unhappy man is often the product of stress. His actions are the reactions of trying to provide for his family, in an uncaring world that often demands more than he can give. He often feels that his efforts are not recognized and that there is no reward for doing his best.
For a wife to live with this troubled man is very difficult. All she sees is the consequence of his unappreciated attempts to make it in the world. His frustrations and anger are often taken out on his family. Why? Because his home is the only place he can get away with it. The only place he can vent his feelings and try to get rid of some the pressure he feels. Home is the only place he hopes to be understood.
For this man, an understanding wife is the best gift he can have. To be able to come home to a wife who loves him. Doesn’t judge him. Accepts him even when he’s unkind and allows him to vent his feelings, even when it’s unfair, is probably the kindest thing anyone can do for him.
Some women are unable to do this and it's understandable. The problem we have is, the frustrated man comes home from work wanting peace, a safe haven from the world and no new problems. He is up tight. His nerves are shot and little things will bug him, like seeing the kid’s bikes carelessly lying in the driveway. This makes him angry because it just adds to the pressure he already feels, so he yells at the kids. Or, he notices that his wife didn’t do something he asked her to do. It doesn’t matter that maybe she had a hard day too. He interprets this as her not caring for him, helping him, or understanding that he needs help. Exasperated he starts yelling at her too. He is at the end of his rope and believes those who should care are not considerate of him.
She in turn thinks. “How can he treat me that way?” Why doesn’t he understand what I have been through this day? Why doesn’t he ever see all that I do? Why does he only see what I don’t do?
So she in turn gets angry back with him or punishes him in other ways. She turns herself away from him. She stops talking to him. Chooses to not do things for him, because he doesn’t understand her. She feels sorry for herself and becomes depressed. Etc, Etc, Etc.
There is no understanding on either side. The worst part is that when we feel abused or neglected we tend for forget the good parts of our mate. We only see the bad. We only see our partner’s flaws and mistakes. We tend to forget our own mistakes.
We each want perfection from our mate when we are not perfect!
To make an analogy: If your young son went to school and was made fun of, by the other kids, was misunderstood by the teacher, found school hard and didn’t get the help he needed. He is really hurting. He comes home angry and wants to fight with his siblings, gets sent to his room, for being a brat. He feels that no one, at home, loves or understands him either and he just gets more angry and frustrated.
We need to understand the cause of our loved ones actions. Every action has a cause! We very seldom take the time to fine the cause. To understand the cause and to do what we can to help eliminate or at lease understand the cause is what we should do. Instead we react to their actions, not realizing “their actions are the result of a cause”. We need to love them enough to understand them.
To be an understanding wife, when her husband is acting out, is difficult because she tends to take his actions toward her as abuse. It is, but she fails to recognize the reasons for why he acts as he does. She needs to understand the cause. To allow him to vent when he needs to.
She needs to understand what it like for a man out there in the world, The world of men working with men! Most men put great demands on each other. Most have little compassion for other men. Often, they gain great joy
The use of credit cards in Australia is escalating possibly on the back of a good economy breeding confidence although do people know how to service this debt and how much it could be costing?Australians owe $32 billion in credit card debt, according to Reserve Bank figures, and some experts predict this will balloon to almost $50 billion by 2009.Thats a staggering figure and as it would it appear it's definately on the rise with Baycorp Advantage, a credit information provider, saying that credit card applications were up 11 per cent on last year with 875,000 applications for credit cards in October, November and December.This is the concern, only seven years ago, the fees incurred on cards was $136 million but they have now soared to a staggering $787 million. This is partly due to an increase in the charge for late payment from $20 to $29.Analysts it would take five years of minimum repayments to pay off the $2399 shown by the Reserve Bank
For this man, an understanding wife is the best gift he can have. To be able to come home to a wife who loves him. Doesn’t judge him. Accepts him even when he’s unkind and allows him to vent his feelings, even when it’s unfair, is probably the kindest thing anyone can do for him.
Some women are unable to do this and it's understandable. The problem we have is, the frustrated man comes home from work wanting peace, a safe haven from the world and no new problems. He is up tight. His nerves are shot and little things will bug him, like seeing the kid’s bikes carelessly lying in the driveway. This makes him angry because it just adds to the pressure he already feels, so he yells at the kids. Or, he notices that his wife didn’t do something he asked her to do. It doesn’t matter that maybe she had a hard day too. He interprets this as her not caring for him, helping him, or understanding that he needs help. Exasperated he starts yelling at her too. He is at the end of his rope and believes those who should care are not considerate of him.
She in turn thinks. “How can he treat me that way?” Why doesn’t he understand what I have been through this day? Why doesn’t he ever see all that I do? Why does he only see what I don’t do?
So she in turn gets angry back with him or punishes him in other ways. She turns herself away from him. She stops talking to him. Chooses to not do things for him, because he doesn’t understand her. She feels sorry for herself and becomes depressed. Etc, Etc, Etc.
There is no understanding on either side. The worst part is that when we feel abused or neglected we tend for forget the good parts of our mate. We only see the bad. We only see our partner’s flaws and mistakes. We tend to forget our own mistakes.
We each want perfection from our mate when we are not perfect!
To make an analogy: If your young son went to school and was made fun of, by the other kids, was misunderstood by the teacher, found school hard and didn’t get the help he needed. He is really hurting. He comes home angry and wants to fight with his siblings, gets sent to his room, for being a brat. He feels that no one, at home, loves or understands him either and he just gets more angry and frustrated.
We need to understand the cause of our loved ones actions. Every action has a cause! We very seldom take the time to fine the cause. To understand the cause and to do what we can to help eliminate or at lease understand the cause is what we should do. Instead we react to their actions, not realizing “their actions are the result of a cause”. We need to love them enough to understand them.
To be an understanding wife, when her husband is acting out, is difficult because she tends to take his actions toward her as abuse. It is, but she fails to recognize the reasons for why he acts as he does. She needs to understand the cause. To allow him to vent when he needs to.
She needs to understand what it like for a man out there in the world, The world of men working with men! Most men put great demands on each other. Most have little compassion for other men. Often, they gain great joy
Many people are up in arms over the thought of global warming and indeed they want the United States to sign the Kyoto Treaty and pledge to reduce our emissions of greenhouse gases. Yet these same people will not demand that India and especially China curb their emissions. And as far as pollution in the atmosphere it is widely known that Chinese Sand Storms blow dust around the world, so in essence and trying to be logical China in all fairness should have a zero pollution goal, which is noting compared to their current output.Something really needs to be done there and the amount of pollution of course increases with each factory and as they rapidly increase the number of power plants then so to the pollution. Indeed this has been the United States’ point of contention over the Global Warming Treaty, that is to say if there is a level playing field then the US will join in the World Wide effort to reduce air pollution.Yet also consider that if the US were
She in turn thinks. “How can he treat me that way?” Why doesn’t he understand what I have been through this day? Why doesn’t he ever see all that I do? Why does he only see what I don’t do?
So she in turn gets angry back with him or punishes him in other ways. She turns herself away from him. She stops talking to him. Chooses to not do things for him, because he doesn’t understand her. She feels sorry for herself and becomes depressed. Etc, Etc, Etc.
There is no understanding on either side. The worst part is that when we feel abused or neglected we tend for forget the good parts of our mate. We only see the bad. We only see our partner’s flaws and mistakes. We tend to forget our own mistakes.
We each want perfection from our mate when we are not perfect!
To make an analogy: If your young son went to school and was made fun of, by the other kids, was misunderstood by the teacher, found school hard and didn’t get the help he needed. He is really hurting. He comes home angry and wants to fight with his siblings, gets sent to his room, for being a brat. He feels that no one, at home, loves or understands him either and he just gets more angry and frustrated.
We need to understand the cause of our loved ones actions. Every action has a cause! We very seldom take the time to fine the cause. To understand the cause and to do what we can to help eliminate or at lease understand the cause is what we should do. Instead we react to their actions, not realizing “their actions are the result of a cause”. We need to love them enough to understand them.
To be an understanding wife, when her husband is acting out, is difficult because she tends to take his actions toward her as abuse. It is, but she fails to recognize the reasons for why he acts as he does. She needs to understand the cause. To allow him to vent when he needs to.
She needs to understand what it like for a man out there in the world, The world of men working with men! Most men put great demands on each other. Most have little compassion for other men. Often, they gain great joy
New Hampshire mortgage lenders provide affordable and hassle free mortgage loans to borrowers. In New Hampshire, there are several types of mortgage lenders, including thrift institutions, commercial banks, mortgage companies, and credit unions. Each of the mortgage lenders in New Hampshire offer diverse rates, so the buyers should discuss with several mortgage lenders to confirm that they are getting the best rates.New Hampshire mortgage lenders meet customers through New Hampshire mortgage brokers - who arrange transactions rather than lending money directly. In other words, mortgage brokers find a good New Hampshire mortgage lender for the consumers. Mortgage lenders are subjected by law to issue home loans at affordable interest rates. They can ask for higher interest rates when the borrowers have bad credit scores.In general, most mortgage lenders encourage borrowers to choose loans with higher interest rates because in addition to the regular commissi
There is no understanding on either side. The worst part is that when we feel abused or neglected we tend for forget the good parts of our mate. We only see the bad. We only see our partner’s flaws and mistakes. We tend to forget our own mistakes.
We each want perfection from our mate when we are not perfect!
To make an analogy: If your young son went to school and was made fun of, by the other kids, was misunderstood by the teacher, found school hard and didn’t get the help he needed. He is really hurting. He comes home angry and wants to fight with his siblings, gets sent to his room, for being a brat. He feels that no one, at home, loves or understands him either and he just gets more angry and frustrated.
We need to understand the cause of our loved ones actions. Every action has a cause! We very seldom take the time to fine the cause. To understand the cause and to do what we can to help eliminate or at lease understand the cause is what we should do. Instead we react to their actions, not realizing “their actions are the result of a cause”. We need to love them enough to understand them.
To be an understanding wife, when her husband is acting out, is difficult because she tends to take his actions toward her as abuse. It is, but she fails to recognize the reasons for why he acts as he does. She needs to understand the cause. To allow him to vent when he needs to.
She needs to understand what it like for a man out there in the world, The world of men working with men! Most men put great demands on each other. Most have little compassion for other men. Often, they gain great joy
Having heard that SharePoint 2007 provides some significant new functionality in the area of document management, many organizations are asking whether they can use SharePoint 2007 to manage their Microsoft Outlook messages.Do the new document management features of SharePoint 2007 help with managing Outlook messages? Is the integration between Outlook and SharePoint 2007 better than with previous versions of SharePoint? Can SharePoint 2007 be the email message repository for my organization?The short answer is that SharePoint 2007 is definitely better for managing Outlook messages than previous versions of SharePoint. This article describes how the out-of-the-box features of SharePoint 2007 can be used with Outlook messages and discusses how by using a smart SharePoint add-on called WISDOM Message in conjunction with SharePoint 2007 you can create really great email message management solutions.Content Types and Meta-Data Columns has a cause! We very seldom take the time to fine the cause. To understand the cause and to do what we can to help eliminate or at lease understand the cause is what we should do. Instead we react to their actions, not realizing “their actions are the result of a cause”. We need to love them enough to understand them.
To be an understanding wife, when her husband is acting out, is difficult because she tends to take his actions toward her as abuse. It is, but she fails to recognize the reasons for why he acts as he does. She needs to understand the cause. To allow him to vent when he needs to.
She needs to understand what it like for a man out there in the world, The world of men working with men! Most men put great demands on each other. Most have little compassion for other men. Often, they gain great joy if they can put another man down. Even destroy him if they can. Teasing is one of the greatest joys men do to other men, usually in an unkind way. Many men have no consideration for another man’s feelings. If a man can point out another mans flaw; it gives the abuser a sense of pride and makes him feel that he is better than he really is. Many men have large egos gained from stomping on other men. Most men do not build each other up, they tear each other down and are not always aware they are doing it. It is just tradition passed down from man to man. They do not give compliments, they try to embarrass and insult each other. They were often raised with unfeeling and unkind fathers or no father at all and grew up in a world of unkind men. They in turn, to survive, take on the characteristics of other flawed men because they believe this is how a man should act. They believe they must be strong. This is being masculine. This is being a man1
The other thing about a man, some women don’t always understand, is how difficult it is to make a living today. There are enormous demands put on them to perform. The fear of failure or of being fired is a tremendous stress. The expectations put on men by themselves or their family members expectations, is breaking. To provide nice homes, nice cars and all the extras – like music lessons etc is overwhelming to most men. To know that so much is expected of them and to know that they may not possess the abilities to live up to all those expectations is very hard on them.
To be an understanding wife to this frustrated man is very difficult, but so important. To not take the actions of her husband toward her, “ personally”, is extremely difficult. If she can try to recognize the cause and realize that she is not the reason for his actions can be very helpful to her. Because she will have a greater understanding for what is going on. If she can even learn to endure the abuse and not pass it on is the best thing she can do. To be kind, to him, when he is not being kind is the greatest gift she can give to him. Even when it seems he doesn’t deserve it. It has been said, “He who is most unloving, needs love the most!”
Most women lack this ability. They want to fight back and think “It’s not fair” To think, “He’s abusing me!” “I don’t deserve this.” Rather than being a safe haven for their man, they add to the pressure. They pay him back. They abuse in their own way. They yell back, argue or turn themselves off and quite talking to him.
I am not saying women should be a door mate or accept any kind of abuse. But being able to withstand unkindness because someone is hurting inside and to not take it personal is the healthiest thing she can do for herself and for her mate.
I have directed these suggestions to women but the same ideas are how men should treat their women. They should show the same kindness and understanding toward their wives.
Also, I know there are many women out there trying to survive too. In our world many women are facing the same stress’s as men. My thoughts can be used for both husband and wife.
I offer my encouragement to you. I have discovered; “after the trials come the blessings.” I encourage you to give these thoughts a try. You may find that, one day, your husband or mate will
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